1804 Highland Avenue
Eau Claire, WI 54701
834-9571
E-mail: sandy@stjohns-ec.org
The Wedding
Book
October 2004 Revision
"That you have chosen to be
married in the Christian Church means your
wedding at St. John's will be a worship service."
Introduction
Marriage is a Liturgy of the
Church
Who may be married at St. John's?
Getting
Started
1. Initial
Arrangements
2. Marriage Preparation
3. The Pastor
4. The Wedding Coordinator
5. The Organist
6. The Custodian
7. Musicians
8. The License
Planning
the Wedding Worship Service
1. Outline of the Marriage
Worship Service
2. Decorations
3. Unity Candle
4. Recorded and Instrumental
Music
5. Vocal Music
6. Suggested Scripture
Readings
7. The Exchange of Promises
8. Holy Communion
Additional
Notes
1. Ushers
2. Bulletins
3. Photography
4. Alcoholic Beverages
5. Smoking Policy
6. Throwing Rice or Bird Seed
7. The Reception
8. Fees
9. Invitations to pastors for
receptions and rehearsal dinners
10. Things to bring with you to the
rehearsal (checklist)
Marriage
Service from the Lutheran Book of
Worship
Introduction
Marriage is a
Liturgy of the
Church------
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We rejoice that you have chosen to be married at St.
John's. After years of guiding couples through the process
of preparing for marriage, we realized the need for a set of
uniform guidelines. Our staff has created this booklet to
help you plan your wedding at St. John's.
People from all cultures and all religions get
married. As a result, marriage is not the sole
possession of the church. That you have chosen to
be married in the Christian Church means your
wedding at St. John's will be a worship service.
Therefore, as is the case in all Christian worship,
our primary focus is on God. We come together to
praise and thank God for the good gifts that the
Creator has showered upon the human family and upon
the church. God gives us marriage as the foundation
for human community. Marriage brings us a joy that
begins now and is brought to perfection in the life
to come.
As you come before the altar to pledge your love
and life-long faithfulness to each other, the
Church offers what it has been authorized by Christ
to give: God's blessing. As you kneel you will hear
the words which make a Christian wedding unique:
"The Lord God, who created our first parents and
established them in marriage, establish and sustain
you, that you may find delight in each other and
grow in holy love until your life's end. Amen."
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Who may be
married at St.
John's?------
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In keeping with the nature of Christian
marriage, only people who have a commitment to Christ and
are active members of a worshiping congregation are
married at St. John's.
Members who worship regularly and are active in the
life of St. John's, and family members (children or
grandchildren) of active St. John's members may be
married here provided we receive verification from their
home church that they are active members. In these cases
the couple must also fulfill the requirements for
marriage at St. John's (see section on Marriage
Preparation, below).
Persons who have been married in a civil ceremony are
welcome to have their marriage vows blessed by the
church. (Inform the pastor if this is your
situation.)
Getting
Started------
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As you read through this wedding booklet you will
notice that some traditions associated with weddings are no
longer practiced at St. John's. Some practices have been
discontinued for practical reasons and others for
theological reasons. In each case we have tried to explain
why these traditions have been discontinued.
The following arrangements should be made before
making further plans for your wedding:
1. Initial
Arrangements------
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Your preparation for a wedding at St. John's
began with your initial consultation with the Pastor. At
that time you were given this Wedding Book and Wedding
Information Sheet. You also received some verbal
information regarding the nature of weddings at St.
John's, expectations regarding marriage preparation and
fee schedule.
When reserving a date, please remember that Holy Week
(the dates of which change each year) begins on Palm
Sunday and concludes on Easter Sunday. Since this is a
period of time when all the attention of the church is
directed toward the mystery of redemption, no weddings
take place at St. John's.
PLEASE NOTE:
Normally, only ONE wedding is scheduled per day. In
the rare instance that a second wedding is scheduled,
that wedding party must comply with St. John's scheduling
needs.
2. Marriage
Preparation------
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Couples being married at St. John's are expected
to participate in marriage preparation activities. This
includes the Prepare/Enrich inventory that is
administered by the pastors. The Prepare/Enrich inventory
may take up to two follow-up sessions and is designed to
assist couples in exploring several different areas of
their relationship in an intentional yet personal manner.
The pastor reserves the right to ask for additional
counseling activities if it is deemed necessary.
In addition to the premarital counseling sessions,
couples are required to attend an evening workshop lead
by St. John's pastors and staff. These workshops will be
offered at varied times and may be attended 6 to 9 months
prior to your wedding date. During these times you will
meet other couples who are also getting ready to be
married at St. John's and explore together the nature of
Christian marriage and family life, as well as receive
input into the planning of your wedding ceremony.
3. The
Pastor------
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The Pastor who will officiate at your wedding
service has been called by St. John's Lutheran Church to
"preside at rites of the church". That means it is the
responsibility of the Pastor to see that your marriage
service is performed in keeping with the policies of the
congregation and within the tradition of the Christian
Church.
If you would like a particular pastor to officiate at
your wedding, please say so at the time you make
reservations for your wedding. We will try to honor your
request, but cannot guarantee that it will be granted.
The pastors also reserve the right to substitute for one
another when necessary.
If you would like to invite another pastor to
participate in your wedding service please remember that
the pastor from St. John's will be the officiant and will
decide the extent of participation by the guest
pastor.
4. The Wedding
Coordinator------
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All weddings (except for very small private
weddings) will utilize the services of a wedding
coordinator (WC) who will be assigned to your wedding
approximately six weeks in advance of your wedding day.
The WC should not be confused with a personal attendant.
Rather, the WC is primarily a pastoral assistant. They
can be of assistance to you by answering many questions
regarding the wedding process if and when the pastors are
not available. The primary task of the WC is to assure
that your wedding service flows as smoothly as possible.
They will conduct the rehearsal, and be on site to assist
the pastor and wedding party on your wedding day until
the service is over.
5. The
Organist------
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The regular church organist administers use of
the organ at St. John's. Normally, the organist of St.
John's will play at all weddings where organ music is
desired. We will provide you with the name of the
organist and it will be your responsibility to contact
her/him directly to discuss the music. If our
organist is not available, she/he will suggest a
substitute. Should you desire another organist, she/he
should be trained and have experience with a pipe organ.
Permission for the substitute must be obtained from the
church organist.
6.
Custodian------
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While most of the activities of our church custodians take place
behind the scenes, they are an essential part of the wedding team.
They are responsible to make sure that the physical plant is in
order for your wedding and for worship the day after your celebration.
7.
Musicians------
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In addition to an organist, some couples like to
incorporate a vocalist or instrumentalist (e.g. flute,
trumpet, etc.) within the ceremony. Please discuss this
with the organist in your initial phone contact. This
will allow plenty of time to schedule extra rehearsals.
Vocal and instrumental musicians are responsible for
checking to see that their microphones are on and working
properly.
8. The
License------
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For all but the blessing of a civil marriage,
couples must secure a license to marry from the state of
Wisconsin. The License may be obtained by contacting the
Eau Claire County Clerk's Office, 721 Oxford Avenue, Eau
Claire, WI.
Planning
the Wedding Worship
Service------
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The order for marriage in the Lutheran Book of Worship
is not a rigid form. The liturgy, like marriage itself, is
meant to open doors to possibilities, not to exclude
creativity. The pastor will discuss liturgical options with
you as you meet to plan your wedding.
1. Outline of the
Marriage Worship
Service------
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You may use the following outline in order to
develop a bulletin for your wedding service. (Please see
the complete service printed at the end of this
booklet.)
- Prelude (organ, instrumental music)
- Procession (organ, instrumental or congregational
hymn)
- The Greeting
- Prayer of the Day
- Hymn or Solo (optional)
- Lessons (one or two scriptural passages may be
read here)
- Sermon (optional)
- Hymn or Solo (optional)
- The Exchange of Vows and Rings
- Pronouncement of Marriage
- The Blessing
- The Lighting of the Unity Candle (optional)
- Hymn or Solo (option - during the lighting of the
unity candle)
- Blessing by parents and wedding party
(optional)
- The Prayers
- The Lord's Prayer
- The Benediction
- Introduction of the Couple (optional)
- Recession (organ, instrumental or congregational
hymn)
The pastor who presides at the wedding is the final
judge as to what is appropriate. Assisting ministers may
be used to read the statement about marriage, to read
lessons, or to assist in the prayers. These assisting
ministers may be lay persons.
2.
Decorations------
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The paraments (altar cloths) at St. John's are
designed and used according to the church year. They are
not decorations. Thus the paraments may not
be changed for your wedding in order to coordinate with
colors you have chosen. At times, other appointments are
used in front of the church to emphasize liturgical
seasons. These too, are not to be changed
for weddings. Decorations may be placed on the pews,
however no adhesive substances may be used to secure
them.
For safety reasons, the use of aisle runners has been
discontinued at St. John's. The flooring is not conducive
to safe use of an aisle runner.
Floral decorations may be used. Real flowers are
encouraged for use in the chancel and on the altar.
Please check with your wedding coordinator regarding the
use of church flower stands.
In addition to the candles upon the altar, St. John's
also has aisle candles and free standing candelabra that
you may use for a small fee. Check with your wedding
coordinator to reserve these candles and to arrange their
placement in the church. The use of these and other
decorations should be discussed with your wedding
coordinator.
3. Unity
Candle------
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The Unity Candle is a recent innovation in the
marriage service. Lighting the candle visually symbolizes
the joining of two lives in marriage. Symbols make a
lasting impression so it is important that we use them
with care. You are invited to light a unity candle during
your marriage ceremony if you desire. The pastor
officiating at your wedding will discuss the most
appropriate methods of lighting the candle and the
messages these methods denote to the congregation.
Note: You are responsible to provide your own unity
candle along with two tapers (side candles and
holders).
4. Recorded
Music------
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Some couples ask to use recorded music. While
there is nothing inherently wrong with recorded music,
you should know that live accompaniment can head off many
of the technical difficulties associated with recordings.
Missed cues and long pauses are uncomfortable for
everyone, and ultimately detract from the beauty of the
occasion. We strongly suggest that you refrain from
recorded music.
4b. Instrumental
Music
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Throughout the centuries music has been
one of the primary vehicles that the church
has employed to praise and thank God. There
is a vast selection of music that is
particularly appropriate for wedding
ceremonies. Remember that your wedding is a
worship service. Therefore it is important to
choose music that emphasizes our praise and
thanks to God. Purely secular music is best
left to be used at your reception or wedding
dance.
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In addition to the suggestions listed below, the
congregational organist has many selections and will
assist you in your musical selections. If the organist
has a question regarding the appropriateness of a song
you will be asked to contact the pastor who is
presiding at your wedding for final determination.
Please remember: "Whenever music is employed in the
service and by whatever instruments or voices, it
should be of high quality and not cloud the mood of
the service with triteness or sentimentality. It
should moreover be within the ability of the
performers at hand to play or sing with assurance."
(Manual on the Liturgy p. 348).
Recommended organ music for
processionals:
- Canon in D - Pachelbel
- Jesu Joy of Man's Desiring - Bach
- March (from Occasional Oratorio) - Handel
- Prince of Denmark's March (Trumpet Voluntary) -
Clarke/Purcell
- Processional in C - Hopson
- Processional (from Water Music Suite) -
Handel
- Trumpet March - Lully-Wolff
- Trumpet Tune in C - Lau
- Solemn Processional (from Water Music) -
Handel
- Wedding Processional and Air -
Bach-Leupold
Recommended organ music for
recessionals:
- Allegro (from Symphony #4) - Boyce
- Allegro Maestoso (Walter Music) - Handel
- God of Grace arr. - Manz
- Hornpipe (from Water Music) - Handel
- Psalm 19 - Marcello
- Prelude in Classic Style - Young
- Now Thank We All Our God - Post
- Rigaudon - Campra
- Rondeau ("Theme from Masterpiece Theater") -
Mouret
- Trumpet Tune - Clarke/Purcell
- Trumpet Finale - Manfredini-Wolff
Inappropriate for use in the church
is Wagner's Wedding March from the opera
Lohengrin, and Mendelssohn's Wedding
March from Midsummer Night's Dream, because
they are not in keeping with the intent of a worship
service to praise and thank God.
5. Vocal
Music
If you are wondering about whether or not a
vocal selection is appropriate for your wedding, here is
a tip: If you can answer "yes" to any of the following
questions, the music is probably appropriate:
1. Does the music/text reflect praise and/or
thanksgiving to God?
2. Is the song based on, or does it reflect a
scriptural theme?
3. Is this song in the form of a prayer?
Acceptable Vocal
Music:
- A Nuptial Blessing - Proulx
- Love -Van Dyke
- The Greatest of These - Moe
- Wedding Hymn (Ptolemy) - Handel
- Wedding Prayer - Dunlap
- On Eagles Wings - Joncas
- My Heart Ever Faithful - J.S. Bach
- The Gift of Love Arr. - Hopson
- And Now We Join - Halfvarson
- All The Glory - Gaither
- Author of Love - Clark
- Where There is Love - Haas
- Wedding Song - Stookey
- Two Candles - Salsbury
- God, A Woman and a Man - Green
- Savior Like a Shepherd Lead Us - Bradbury
- Household of Faith - Lamb/Rosasco
- Parents’ Prayer - Davis
- Irish Blessing - Stookey
- In This Very Room - Harris
- The Prayer - Sager & Foster
The following selections are
examples of vocal music that are inappropriate
for use during a wedding worship
service:
- I Swear You're my Hero
Endless Love
- Speak Softly, Love The
Wind Beneath My Wings Love Can Build a
Bridge Keeper of the Stars Amazed
Congregational
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Since the wedding service is a worship
service, it is appropriate for those gathered to sing
together. A hymn also adds to the sense of
participation in the service by those attending. Hymns
may be sung in place of other vocal music or
instrumental procession and recession. The following
hymns from the Lutheran Book of Worship
(LBW) are suggested for your
consideration.
At the beginning of the service, during the
processional or immediately following the opening
prayer:
- Lord Jesus Christ, Be Present Now - 253
- We Praise You, O God - 241
- Praise to the Lord, the Almighty - 543
- Holy God, We Praise Your Name - 535
- I Was There to
Hear Your Borning Cry - 770 (WOV)
During the service following the lessons or
homily or during the lighting of the unity
candle:
- Love Divine, All Loves Excelling - 315
- O Perfect Love - 287
- Hear Us Now, Our God and Father - 288
- Let Us Ever Walk With Jesus - 487
- Heavenly Father, Hear Our Prayer - 289
- The King of Love My Shepherd Is - 456
- When Love is Found - 749
(WOV)
At the end of the service or for the
recessional:
- On What Has Now Been Sown - 261
- Now Thank We All Our God - 534
- Praise, My Soul, The King of Heaven - 549
- Joyful, Joyful We Adore Thee - 551
- Let All Things Now Living - 557
- Earth and All Stars - 558
- Shine, Jesus, Shine - 651
(WOV)
For additional hymns please check the sections
of the LBW for "Beginning of Service," "Marriage" and
"Praise and Adoration."
6. Suggested
Scripture
Readings------
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Usually, two scripture lessons are read
during the wedding service. You may choose to have more
or less. The following is a list of scripture passages
couples frequently ask to have read. It is not meant to
be exhaustive, merely to stimulate your thinking.
Old Testament Readings:
General Theme
- Genesis 1:26-31 Male and female created by
God
- Genesis 2:18-24 God creates man and woman
- Genesis 24:48-51,58-67 Marriage of Isaac and
Rebekah
- Ruth 1:16-17 "Do not press me to leave
you"
- Song of Solomon 2:10-13 Love in the Spring
- Song of Solomon 5:16 What my lover is like
- Song of Solomon 8:7 Unquenchable love
- Isaiah 61:10-11 I will greatly rejoice in the
Lord
- Isaiah 63:7-9 The steadfast love of God
- Jeremiah 32:38-41 God's faithfulness
- Jeremiah 33:11 The voice
of gladness
- Psalms: 29, 33, 34, 63, 100, 117, 127, 128,
136, 150
- Hosea 2:19-20 "And I will take you for my wife
forever"
New Testament Letters:
- Romans 12:1-2 A living offering
- I Corinthians 7:1-7 Marital duties of husband
& wife
- I Corinthians 12:31-13:13 The song of God's
love
- Ephesians 5:21-33 Marriage and the church
- Colossians 3:12-17 Live in love and
thanksgiving
- Philippians 2:5-11 Attitudes to build a
marriage
- I John 3:16; 4:7-19 Teaching on love
The Gospels:
- Matthew 19:4-6 Faithfulness in marriage
- John 2:1-10 The Wedding at Cana
- John 15:9-12 Love one another
- John 17:22-23 Christ's prayer for love and
unity
You may select a reading from each category if you
choose. The order of worship indicates that at least one
lesson should be read. In addition to readings from the
Bible, a selection from a secular source may be used
if it is in harmony with the spirit of a Christian
Worship service and with the biblical understanding of
marriage. Be especially careful with poetry. Many
love poems are personal and private expressions not
appropriate for public reading at a wedding.
7. The Exchange of
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You have the option to choose from several
different vows. Please inform the pastor as to your
choice at least a week before your wedding.
1. I take you, ________________ to be my
wife/husband, from this day forward, to join with
you and share all that is to come, and I promise to
be faithful to you until death parts us. (Printed
in Lutheran Book of Worship)
2. I take you, ________________ to be my
wife/husband, and these things I promise you: I
will be faithful to you and honest with you; I will
respect, trust, help and care for you; I will share
my life with you; I will forgive you as we have
been forgiven; and I will try with you better to
understand ourselves, the world and God; through
the best and worst of what is to come until death
parts us.
3. I take you, ________________ to be my
wife/husband, I promise before God and these
witnesses to be your faithful husband/wife, to
share with you in plenty and in want, in joy and in
sorrow, in sickness and in health, to forgive and
strengthen you, and to join with you so that
together we may serve God and others as long as we
both shall live.
4. _________________, I take you to be my
wife/husband, from this time onward, to join with
you and to share all that is to come, to give and
to receive, to speak and to listen, to inspire and
to respond, and in all circumstances of our life
together to be loyal to you with my whole life and
with all my being until death parts us.
You may wish to write your own vows. They
should be consistent with the biblical
understanding of marriage and should make clear
that the promises are a life-long commitment. The
pastor must approve the wording you choose if it is
not a form found in the Lutheran Book of
Worship or this booklet, since it is the
pastor who, as a representative of the Church, must
certify that a marriage has taken place. If you
write your own vows, be careful not to promise the
impossible. The vows printed above may serve as a
good outline for the writing of your own
promises.
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8. Holy
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As
baptized Christians, you may request that your marriage
be set in the context of the celebration of Holy
Communion. Celebrating marriage in the context of Holy
Communion enriches the meaning of marriage and our
understanding of the sacrament. Marriage often involves a
festive meal; Holy Communion always does. Marriage is a
sign of intimacy and union and communion; so is Holy
Communion. The Holy Communion abounds in festive marriage
imagery in which Christ the bridegroom celebrates with
his bride, the Church, the heavenly wedding banquet which
knows no end. (from In Love and Faithfulness)
Holy Communion is a sign of unity, and the
Sacrament is not appropriate unless the congregation is
invited to participate, for the body and blood of Christ
belongs to the whole church.
If you plan to have Holy Communion as a part of your
wedding service, please indicate your intent as you talk
with the pastor during your planning session.
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1.
Ushers------
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A minimum of two ushers (more if more than 150
guests) are necessary in order to seat and dismiss
worshipers. Ushers should be mature people, as the nature
of their task requires confidence and decisiveness.
2.
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It is helpful, but not necessary, to have
printed bulletins to inform members of the congregation
of the order of worship and the names of participants in
the worship service. You should discuss the use of the
bulletin with the pastor. Purchase of bulletin covers and
printing are the responsibility of the couple. The St.
John's church office does not print wedding bulletins.
Note: The bulletin is the best place to remind the
worshipers that no flash pictures should be taken during
the service.
3.
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We strongly suggest that formal pictures be
taken before the service. There are several
reasons for this.
First, fees for the custodian are based on the
assumption that weddings (without receptions held in the
church) take no more than three and one half hours. This
3-1/2 hour block must include time for dressing, the
wedding service (25-35 minutes) and the reception line
following the service (20-30 minutes). Therefore it is
important that pictures be done in an efficient manner
and concluded at least 20 minutes before the wedding
service is scheduled to begin.
Secondly, you will be able to join your guests at the
reception in a more timely fashion by having your
pictures taken before the ceremony.
Some may object to this practice because of the
tradition of "not seeing the bride" before her march down
the aisle. The origin of this tradition however, dates
back to the 1800's and arranged marriages where the groom
was not allowed to see the bride's face before the
ceremony was completed to assure that he would not back
out of the arrangement.
Please inform your photographer that pictures will be
taken before the ceremony and that the time needs to be
limited to one hour and fifteen minutes.
Video taping your ceremony is permissible, but must be
done in an unobtrusive manner. The wedding coordinator
will talk with your videographer about camera placement.
For connection to the church sound system, please consult
the Wedding Coordinator.
No flash pictures may be taken during the wedding
service. Please include the following notice in your
wedding bulletin:
Please refrain from using cameras with flash during
the ceremony. Thank You.
4. Alcoholic
Beverages------
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It is not uncommon for alcoholic beverages to be
consumed at the occasion of a wedding. Should you choose
to have your wedding at St. John's, we ask you to inform
your friends and family that no alcohol may be
consumed on the premises, in the parking lots or on the
streets adjacent to St. John's. Ask your friends to
take it easy with alcohol at your rehearsal dinner and to
abstain completely prior to the rehearsal and wedding
ceremony. While weddings are cause for celebration, they
are also solemn occasions of worship, requiring a certain
standard of behavior. Weddings at St. John's are a
privilege, therefore, the pastors and wedding coordinator
may dismiss any persons in the wedding party who appear
intoxicated. The only beverage allowed in the sanctuary
is water.
5. No smoking is
allowed inside the church
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6. No pets allowed
in the wedding
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7. Throwing Rice or
Bird
Seed------
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We ask that NO rice or birdseed be thrown on St. John’s
premises. At one time rice was associated with fertility,
thus throwing rice over a newly married couple was a symbol, which
is no longer understood in our culture. When it was discovered
that rice was fatal to the birds that cleaned up the sidewalks
after weddings, people began to throw birdseed instead of rice – which
of course loses the original symbolism completely. Now it has
been noticed that birdseed is extremely slippery and a potential
hazard to pedestrians using the sidewalks. Therefore we ask that
this custom not take place on church premises. If you feel the
need to be showered with something as you leave the church, we
suggest bubbles (outside the building.)
8. The
Reception------
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Arrangements for wedding receptions at the
church must be made with the Women of the Evangelical
Lutheran Church in America (WELCA).
See Wedding Information Sheet for names and
phone numbers.
9.
Fees------
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There are a variety of fees charged and appear
on the Wedding Information Sheet that you received when
you were given this booklet. Since many wedding dates are
reserved over two years in advance the church reserves
the right to change fees without notification. Note:
Fees are based upon the couple's membership status at the
time the wedding is scheduled.
You are responsible for making separate checks payable
to the Organist, other musicians and soloists, the
wedding coordinator and the custodian, and to the WELCA
if you hold a reception at the church. All checks must be
brought to the church AT THE REHEARSAL. Since the
organist, custodian and wedding coordinator have already
made preparations and scheduled their time, your checks
to these persons are not refundable should your wedding
be canceled within seven (7) days of the scheduled
date.
10. Invitations to
pastors for receptions and rehearsal
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Many times it is impossible for the pastor to
attend either your rehearsal dinner or your wedding
reception if it is held away from the church. If you
would like either the Pastor or the Pastor and his/her
spouse to attend such events, please invite them well in
advance (at the same time you send your other invitations
is customary). This will give the pastor time to respond
to your invitation and avoid surprises.
11. Things to bring
with you to the
rehearsal------
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[ ...]
Rings [ ... ]
License
[ ... ] Bulletins
[... ] Unity Candle
and tapers
[ ... ]
Decorations [ ... ]
Clothing you wish to have locked up over night
[ ... ] Payment of all
fees are to be made the night of the rehearsal. The list
below is provided for your organizational purposes. The amount of
the specific fee is listed on the “Wedding Information Sheet” and
checks should be made payable to the specific person assisting with
your wedding.
[ ] Wedding Coordinator [ ]
Organist
[ ] Custodian [ ]
Building Usage*
[ ] Pew Candles* [ ]
Candelabras*
[ ] Pastoral Fee
*Checks for these items are payable to St. John’s Lutheran
Church and may be combined into one check.
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Marriage Service from the
Lutheran Book of Worship
Stand
1. The bride, groom, and wedding party stand in front
of the minister. The parents may stand behind the
couple.
P The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, the love of
God, and the communion of the Holy Spirit be with you
all.
C And also with you.
A Let us pray.
Eternal God, our
creator and redeemer, as you gladdened the wedding at
Cana in Galilee by the presence of you Son, so by his
presence now bring your joy to this wedding. Look in
favor upon _____________ and ______________ and grant
that they, rejoicing in all your gifts, may at length
celebrate with Christ the marriage feast which has no
end.
C Amen
Sit
2. One or more lessons from the Bible may be read. An
address may follow. A hymn may be sung.
A The Lord God in his goodness created us male and
female, and by the gift of marriage founded human community
in a joy that begins now and is brought to perfection in the
life to come.
Because of sin, our age-old rebellion, the gladness of
marriage can be overcast and the gift of the family can
become a burden.
But because God, who established marriage, continues
still to bless it with his abundant and ever-present
support, we can be sustained in our weariness and have our
joy restored.
P _______________ and _______________, if it is
your intention to share with each other your joys and
sorrows and all that the years will bring, with your
promises bind yourselves to each other as husband and
wife.
Stand
3. The bride and groom face each other and join hands.
Each, in turn, promises faithfulness to the other in these
or similar words:
I take you, ____________
, to be my wife/husband from this day
forward, to join with you and
share all that is to come, and I promise to be faithful
to you until death parts us.
4. The bride and groom exchange rings with these
words:
I give you this ring as a sign of my love and
faithfulness.
5. The bride and groom join hands, and the minister
announces their marriage by saying:
P ______________ and _______________, by their
promises before God and in the presence of this
congregation, have bound themselves to one another as
husband and wife.
C Blessed be the Father and the Son and the Holy
Spirit now and forever.
P Those whom God has joined together let no one
put asunder.
C Amen
Sit
6. The bride and groom kneel.
P The Lord God, who created our first parents and
established them in marriage, establish and sustain you,
that you may find delight in each other and grow in holy
love until your life's end.
C Amen
7. The parents may add their blessing with these or
similar words; the wedding party may join them.
May you dwell in God's presence forever; may
true and constant love preserve you.
8. The bride and groom stand.
Stand
A Let us bless God for all the gifts in which we
rejoice today.
P Lord God, constant in mercy, great in
faithfulness: With high praise we recall your acts of
unfailing love for the human family, for the house of
Israel, and for your people the Church.
We bless you for the joy which your servants,
________________ and ________________, have found in each
other, and pray that you give to us such a sense of your
constant love that we may employ all our strength in a
life of praise of you, whose work alone holds true and
endures forever.
C Amen
A Let us pray for _______________ and
_______________ in their life together.
P Faithful Lord,
source of love, pour down your grace upon _____________ and
_____________, that they may fulfill the vows they have made
this day and reflect your steadfast love in their life-long
faithfulness to each other. As members with them of the body
of Christ, use us to support their life together; and from
your great store of strength give them power and patience,
affection and understanding, courage, and love toward you,
toward each other, and toward the world, that they may
continue together in mutual growth according to your will in
Jesus Christ our Lord.
C Amen
Other intercessions may be offered.
A Let us pray for all families throughout the
world.
P Gracious Father, you bless the family and renew
your people. Enrich husbands and wives, parents and children
more and more with your grace, that, strengthening and
supporting each other, they may serve those in need and be a
sign of the fulfillment of your perfect kingdom, where, with
your Son Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit, you live and
reign, one God through all ages of ages.
C Amen
9. When Holy Communion is celebrated, the service
continues with the Peace.
10. When there is no Communion, the service continues
with the Lord's Prayer.
C [Lutheran Book of Worship lists two
versions of the Lord's Prayer.]
P Almighty God, Father, XSon,
and Holy Spirit, keep you in his light and truth and love
now and forever.
C Amen
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